July was one of the best months for me in 2017. ..
Because there is a shop just kind of opposite to my flat in Basel. My kitchen is kind of facing to this shop. I spent lots of time in my kitchen, not only for cooking also do my Skype German lesson, my other computer works etc..
I have been living in this flat from 2016 February. The story is, there is a sales girl working in the shop. During her break, she comes out of the shop with coffee in one hand and another hand mobile phone and cigarette. I have been seeing this for many months and even over a year. I feel so sad seeing someone is destroying themselves, killing themselves in front of me. And here I am so so helpless. As a Hypnotherapist, I watch her all the time how she reacts with the cigarette and the smoking and gestures…
I always think how I can help this sweet girl to save from this poison. I know Basel is one of the cities in the world mostly polluted the air by smoking puffs. Always see the people with cigarettes, people who eat well, people who care about nature well. but somehow they forgot not pollute themselves as well not to pollute the place through their puff, which is more important.
So I always think when I see her how I can talk to this sweet girl and save her life from this poison. I see her every day, but for her, I am not even stranger… because she may even haven’t seen me yet as I see her through the window glass. Anyway days passed, the weeks passed, months passed and even year. I see her, she smokes, she is burning her life, and I see, saw, seen and sad. I kept thinking how I can help her, help her.. .. go on
So finally last month I was coming by bike after teaching Yoga, I saw this girl is walking by, all of a sudden a star glittered in my heart and brain. I stopped the bike next to her and asked. Do you speak English? Then she said ‘yes little bit‘ (in Switzerland if we ask someone do you speak English they will tell a little bit, but they speak very well, but in India ask anyone, do you speak English? Then they will tell Yes, but speak only What is your name, How are you? Where are you from-Yes & No that is all ..LOL)
When I told her, May be you don’t know me, but I know you very well. And explained where I live and all. And said to her, I want to tell you something. But don’t worry I am not gonna judge you, rather gonna justify you, and please take it only in a positive way and I started to talk to her about the smoking, How? what? why? when etc.. I also reminded her, I know no one in the world really wants to destroy themselves and there will be stories behind always ..etc.. When we started the conversation she had a cigarette in between her fingers, but I saw during our conversation it crushed down…I also said to her, it is better we to rely on something which is healthy and give long lasting results. Otherwise, once we solved out the problem of why we smoke.. already we will be affected by effects of smoking and which will take away our life, our life means the agony and grieves of our children, siblings, parents, and friends. Although we die they will give with charcoal in their heart which caused by us. .. She listened all very well. I said to her Actually it is my profession and I charge for the treatments. But one day you can come to my home I can make you Indian Chai and we chat and do some therapy and you don’t need to pay anything. I gave her nice hug and a kiss on her cheek.
After I never seen her smoking, but I don’t know if she is still there or went for traveling because she had said about traveling, but that was just 2 weeks. So I see some changes.. but she still hasn’t come to my home for Chai and chat- But she had told me that she will come after her trip- Hopefully I can help her again after my Indian trip-
Actually, I do similar things, in Basel, it is very common to see mothers and fathers smoke when they push children‘s carriers, they smoke and give all the puffs to their poor baby, once I talked to a mother, but I didn’t get good response actually. But you never withdraw- because you have aim-and goal and that is positive and we want the result which is positive.
The other day there was a girl smoking in the park sitting alone on the side during my yoga class at the park- After the Yoga class I gave her a good awareness- And now after few days… She said to me yesterday she is no more smoking… It is very beautiful to be part of people‘s happiness especially when we know we also reason for their happiness. .. Try it, it is very lovely..
And what made my month even happier. The other client- She said she stopped smoking as well. And she is very very kind soul and my very good friend- Smoking doesn’t mean the person had bad soul-or the heart- it is just a habit- A habit with destroys our generation and then nature totally.
This photo (One at my balcony having green tea with) I added here when I and my lovely Italian buddy went to Fribourg- This guy was a street taro reader- I think no one went to him though.. Before we approached him I and Daniel went to have Pizza. And after eating Pizza (I eat may be 2 or 3 Pizza in a year )
I told him to let‘s give 10¢ Euro as a tip- 5 each- He said, oh it is too much, then I said we pay much less here than the Switzerland. And they also don’t earn so much, so it is better to give them for tip- Anyway, he took that as good thought I think, and when we were with tarot reader, after reading he gave him (He was reading his tarot) 10 ¢ Euro- And that made the reader so happy- He was a jobless fellow. It is very beautiful when we become part of people‘s happiness- As long as our purpose is good action is not a matter, and there will be positive result although we may have to wait-
Sharing the stories also beautiful though it takes longer to write, it can affect thousand‘s of people thoughts too!
‘‘A question to Ramana Maharshi -(Sage from India)
How should we treat others?
Ramana Maharshi says: There are no others‘‘
We all are connected, we have to take care of others, means take time for others.
An example- We are walking on the street, someone fell down from the bike, and can’t get up, of course, you walk to him or her and help. This time you never gonna think that this is not my business and I don’t need to help him. Because you are human you have got the heart and you care- In reality we all are kind and compassionate, but we degrade about what is our business and others- Just tomorrow morning when we start the day just think all the actions we do. did and done with the help of others. even me myself writing this with the laptop made by someone, the internet, power, even to post this on Facebook- And they also get served by us through money and all. And we are still talking about our business….
‘In order to carry a positive action, we must develop here a positive vision‘